30 June 2005

My friend Myracris and Recipes for Crying


"I am RESISTANT TO TECHNOLOGY! I will NEVER have my own blog!" she yells. Myracris (her photo is above with her little girl and her husband) is sitting right next to me as I type this and she said these words not 2 minutes ago. I'm here to show here how easy it is and how wrong she will be once she travels or goes to her reunion and realizes the easiest way to share pictures or thoughts with her family will be the blog.

"NO!" she's saying. Well, time will tell my little Canadian friend. O CANADA! It's almost Canada Day.

We just cried over a bunch of Blogs and e-mails. We really are pathetic. This is our idea of spending fun, quality, friendship time together!

You want to know what we were crying over? Go to my Links and read John's Blog and look in the archives in May and read about his mom and North Korea. Then go to the Iraq blog of Robert and read Essay 16 about a woman who is his antithesis. Then, read the rest of this blog where I'll post an article that was originally published in a newspaper somewhere but is now making e-mail rounds.

Ben Stein's Last Column...
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How Can Someone Who Lives in Insane Luxury Be a Star in Today's World?

As I begin to write this, I "slug" it, as we writers say, which means I put a heading on top of the document to identify it. This heading is "eonlineFINAL," and it gives me a shiver to write it. I have been doing this column for so long that I cannot even recall when I started. I loved writing this column so much for so long I came to believe it would never end.

It worked well for a long time, but gradually, my changing as a person and the world's change have overtaken it. On a small scale, Morton's, while better than ever, no longer attracts as many stars as it used to. It still brings in the rich people in droves and definitely some stars.

I saw Samuel L. Jackson there a few days ago, and we had a nice visit,and right before that, I saw and had a splendid talk with Warren Beatty in an elevator, in which we agreed that Splendor in the Grass was a super movie. But Morton's is not the star galaxy it once was, though it probably will be again.


Beyond that, a bigger change has happened. I no longer think Hollywood stars are terribly important. They are uniformly pleasant, friendly people, and they treat me better than I deserve to be treated. But a man or woman who makes a huge wage for memorizing lines and reciting them in front of a camera is no longer my idea of a shining star we should all look up to.

How can a man or woman who makes an eight-figure wage and lives in insane luxury really be a star in today's world, if by a "star" we mean someone bright and powerful and attractive as a role model? Ral stars are not riding around in the backs of limousines or in Porsches or getting trained in yoga or Pilates and eating only raw fruit while they have Vietnamese girls do their nails.

They can be interesting, nice people, but they are not heroes to me any longer. A real star is the soldier of the 4th Infantry Division who poked his head into a hole on a farm near Tikrit , Iraq. He could have been met by a bomb or a hail of AK-47 bullets. Instead, he faced an abject Saddam Hussein and the gratitude of all of the decent people of the world.

A real star is the U.S. soldier who was sent to disarm a bomb next to a road north of Baghdad . He approached it, and the bomb went off and killed him.

A real star, the kind who haunts my memory night and day, is the U.S. soldier in Baghdad who saw a little girl playing with a piece of unexploded ordnance on a street near where he was guarding a station. He pushed her aside and threw himself on it just as it exploded. He left a family desolate in California and a little girl alive in Baghdad.

The stars who deserve media attention are not the ones who have lavish weddings on TV but the ones who patrol the streets of Mosul even after two of their buddies were murdered and their bodies battered and stripped for the sin of trying to protect Iraqis from terrorists.

We put couples with incomes of $100 million a year on the covers of our magazines. The noncoms and officers who barely scrape by on military pay but stand on guard in Afghanistan and Iraq and on ships and in submarines and near the Arctic Circle are anonymous as they live and die.

I am no longer comfortable being a part of the system that has such poor values, and I do not want to perpetuate those values by pretending that who is eating at Morton's is a big subject.

There are plenty of other stars in the American firmament...the policemen and women who go off on patrol in South Central and have no idea if they will return alive; the orderlies and paramedics who bring in people who have been in terrible accidents and prepare them for surgery; the teachers and nurses who throw their whole spirits into caring for autistic children; the kind men and women who work in hospices and in cancer wards.

Think of each and every fireman who was running up the stairs at the World Trade Center as the towers began to collapse. Now you have my idea of a real hero.

I came to realize that life lived to help others is the only one that matters. This is my highest and best use as a human. I can put it another way. Years ago, I realized I could never be as great an actor as Olivier or as good a comic as Steve Martin...or Martin Mull or Fred Willard--or as good an economist as Samuelson or Friedman or as good a writer as Fitzgerald. Or even remotely close to any of them.

But I could be a devoted father to my son, husband to my wife and, above all, a good son to the parents who had done so much for me. This came to be my main task in life. I did it moderately well with my son, pretty well with my wife and well indeed with my parents (with my sister's help). I cared for and paid attention to them in their declining years.

I stayed with my father as he got sick, went into extremis and then into a coma and then entered immortality with my sister and me reading him the Psalms.

This was the only point at which my life touched the lives of the soldiers in Iraq or the firefighters in New York. I came to realize that life lived to help others is the only one that matters and that it is my duty, in return for the lavish life God has devolved upon me, to help others He has placed in my path. This is my highest and best use as a human.


Faith is not believing that God can. It is knowing that God will.

By Ben Stein

Messy room, messy mind?

Why is it that whenever life gets busy my room reflects it? My bedroom looks like a storm passed through. My desk is cluttered with papers, discs, receipts, tapes and books. The web of unorganized piles spread like an inescapable net over everything. The more I move things around the more tangled it becomes.

You'd think I was in high school or college. But it's just life.

There are moments of procrastination and stress where I organize and clean, but for the most part my room reflects my life. I've heard from other people that their rooms are the same too. Now, if I could only get that pile of holiday letters sitting on the floor under the table done. They're 3 years late...

26 June 2005

Doctor, Doctor, Doctor




I have an inferiority complex. Not about being short (I'm used to that.) Or being clumsy (Feldenkrais classes are helping.) Or being stupid (I embrace those moments.) My inferiority complex has to do with schooling...which, by the way, is totally different from intelligence.

The months of April and June have added two more PhD's to my family. My parents and siblings are going around saying "Hello, Doctor Chen." I, on the other hand wander the streets as a regular Joe, or errr Jane with only the title -- the one of the next book I'm supposed to read for bookclub somewhere buried in my planner. I'm extremely proud of my sister and my brother. They've worked very hard and they deserve it. It's also payment for the grey hairs they've also gotten at young ages.

You got to see the sopping wet graduation of my sister so I thought I'd upload a photo of my brother's graduation. Dry. Relatively warm. Relatively sunny. ....For Minnesota. The caption should read "Doctor, Doctor, Regular Jane being dorky" but I couldn't get it to work today.

And to tell the truth, it's not really an inferiority complex. It's more like...DARN! You mean I don't get to wear the funny hat and hood and walk across the stage in a three to four hour ceremony? No. I get to sit through a three to four hour ceremony with a camera in my hand trying to take pictures of a person very far away in a funny hat and hood walking across a stage. So actually, if you think about it...it's not very complex at all.

25 June 2005

Mac or PC?

I've been a PC user for the past 11 or so years. And my poor Dell kept freezing and I would dread even turning it on because it was so slooooow. So in looking for a computer I thought I'd open up my options. Needless to say I didn't know how passionate people were. It became the unexpected Great Debate.

An example:

Innocently in the middle of playing a game of Go I bring up the mention I'm thinking about getting a computer. Should I get a Mac? or a PC?

Fellow Go Player 1: Mac! Macs are great! They...

Fellow Go Player 2: No, No, No! PC's are cheaper, they can do everything the Mac does and...

Fellow Go Player 3: But the Mac is more intuitive and they're much more fun and easier to use! They have a greater aesthetic!

Fellow Go Player 4: But PC's have so much more software and...


and thus continues the debate for a half hour while my Go game is put on hold.

My brother,in the midst of getting his Computer Science PhD votes for the PC. A friend who is a writer and a Computer Science Professor votes for the Apple. (He programs in Unix he says.)

My sister says the Mac is no longer the more intuitive computer. People at work make up things about what the Mac can and cannot do to mess with my mind. And I, on the other hand, end up only more confused and no better off than when I started. *sigh*

So what did I decide? I'm typing to you right now on a Blade Clear Cube PC. But, then again, I'm at my workplace.

Apple or PC? One's a fruit and gives me visions of home. Apple pie, Carmel Apples, Trees. The other stands for Personal Computer and gives me visions of cold unyielding plastic. When a third of my life is now spent in front of the computer, I choose home. I chose home. Even if it is might be a marketing ploy and it is just a name.

At home, I have a beautiful computer that gives a powerful VVVROOOOM!!! with a touch of the on/off button. It did take me a half hour to figure out how to open the disk drive. Other than that I love it. :)

15 June 2005

The Commencement Speaker's In the Clear

The poor guy. A member of former President Clinton's cabinet, he flew all the way to Seattle to talk and then it poured. Of course he went on and on and onandonandon and didn't shorten his speech at all. When he said "...in closing..." there was thunderous applause to go with the rain.

Sleepless in Seattle or just all wet?

O Seattle, O Seattle, Oooooh Seattle what would we do without ye? And what would we do without rain? The day I flew in for my sister's graduation it was a beautiful day...Of course I arrived at 11:30 at night. But I was told it was a beautiful day. The next two days preceded to be cloudy or pouring rain. Unfortunately, the graduation ceremony was held in an outdoor stadium and neither the speaker, the graduates, or the faculty were dressed for it. Boxes of clear plastic parkas showed up and were torn apart and empty in a matter of seconds. Literally.

A wonderful way to remember a graduation don't you think?

08 June 2005

Alice the insomniac

My first Blog ever. I didn't even know what a Blog was until about 3 months ago. A part of me thinks it outrageous to even have one. What is there about my life that is worth reading? I've always loved adventures; international and domestic. So... I figure, a trip to Seattle here...a trip to Hawaii and Turkey there and somewhere hiding in the midst of it all is a good adventure.

Some of you know me as Ali (pronounced alley puhleeeeze not aahhhlee ) and others of you know me as Alice but does it really matter either way? I'm hoping to link some of the stories and photos from my Italy, Prague, England, and Taiwan trips here too.

More to come. In the wee hours of the morning while the tip of my nose is still cool from the chill of the night and the only sounds are the keys of my Mac and the distant sound of L.A. interstate traffic in the darkness at around 2:30AM - it's time to try to figure out what to make of this Blog since sleep is obviously very, very, very far away. *sigh*